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Posts made in August, 2012

Shame on You Judy!

DejectedI wrote this post a few years ago, but thought it was worth re-posting.  Recently on a business trip I had a tired, weary eyed businessman sit next to me in the airport as we waited for our airplanes to arrive. I had sat in a nearby gate area across from my boarding vicinity since there were more chairs available in this section. As we waited, I could not help from overhearing a phone conversation this gentleman was having with his boss next to me on his cell phone.

I heard him call his superior Judy, and proceed to explain how tired and exhausted he was from his traveling. This man asked if he could fax some papers in the morning and if they could discuss this situation from his office. He went on to explain to Judy that when she had all of the documentation in front of her and he could explain his side of the story it would make more sense. Evidently this wasn’t good enough for Judy.

She continued to discipline her worker to no avail. Surprisingly, this conversation must have continued on for 15 to 20 minutes (or longer). In fact, my boarding call was announced and as I stood in line to leave the airport I glanced back to see the gentleman still on the phone with a sad defeated look on his face.

There were two things that made an impression on me about this businessman that day. First, he never lost his temper with Judy. He always spoke with respect in responding to her demands and threats, and remained professional during the entire conversation. Second, he tried several times to explain to Judy that this was not the right time or place for him to discuss this problem. Finally, he admitted responsibility for the situation, and said he would take whatever consequences were due him.

I’ve never met Judy, but I can tell you this, if I was a supervisor for that company, I would take the man in the airport over Judy any day! Why? Because he admitted and accepted the blame, and he wanted to keep the client happy by offering the incentives he did. I also appreciated his calm and professional personality he displayed to Judy during this phone conversation. I wondered how many other people would have been so calm and collective to a supervisor who talked to them as Judy did that day.

The lesson from today’s writing is two-fold:

First, if you are in a management authority position, never reprimand a worker in public, and especially from a cell phone conversation.
Second, if you become wrapped up in a confrontational issue with a colleague or boss take the advice from this unknown business traveler and remain calm, patient and professional at all times.

As Greg Anderson, former NBA former forward/center for the San Antonio Spurs and Atlanta Hawks said, “although our inattention can contribute to our lack of total well-being, we also have the power to choose positive behaviors and responses. In that choice we change our every experience of life!”

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There is Really No Excuse!

BicycleYesterday while my wife and I were making our daily jog/walk at our local state park, we were stopped by an 81 year “young” man.  He was on a brand new bicycle he had purchased just minutes earlier at a local retail store.  This joyful and excited fellow stopped to ask us a few questions about the 12 mile bike trail.  We were probably about a mile from the parking lot, so we knew he had just started his journey on this bright shinny new ride.  He told us that this was his first time to be back on a bicycle in over 50 years.  He laughed and peddled on saying he thought he was getting back into the swing of riding.

Wow, what an adventurous person I thought.  Here is a guy that is 81, and instead of sitting at home thinking up excuses on why he can’t, shouldn’t or never would get out to ride a bike again, he’s out and off to make the best of a new day!

Let me ask you this question:  Why do some people keep going in life, while others decide to give up and throw in the towel?   In reality, age probably has nothing to do with what we choose to do in life.  Sure, health can prohibit us from many opportunities, yet we still seem to hear and see stories of people running marathons with artificial legs, terminal illnesses and more.  I think the bottom line to living life to its fullest, is having the right attitude.

Read what one Online Dictionary has to say about attitude:

A settled way of thinking or feeling, typically reflected in a person’s behavior.

Are you settled in your way of thinking?  Do you feel like your attitude is keeping you from achieving all that life has to offer you?  If so, there is GOOD news!  It’s not too late to change and you can go out and purchase that new shinny bicycle today, and learn to ride all over again.  But first, it must start with you.  You have to change your attitude to an “I can, and I will achieve these goals and dreams I have for my life!”

I challenge you to begin forming new ways of thinking, and to live life like that 81 year “young” man is living my wife and I met this week.  He reminded both my wife and myself that there really are no excuses.

I would love to hear what helps you keep a positive attitude.  Please feel free to post a comment to this blog.  I’m sure many readers would love to hear your input, including me.  Thanks for reading my blog today.

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Don’t Quit!

Don't QuitOn April 13th, 1954 two rookie baseball players made their first major league appearance.  One ballplayer was from the Milwaukee Braves while the other one played for the Cincinnati Reds.  The Cincinnati Reds player had a record hitting five doubles to help his team beat the braves 9 to 8.  The rookie for Milwaukee made five separate appearances to bat during the game and never did reach base.  0 for 5 was not an impressive outing for the new rookie, and especially for his first baseball game in the major leagues.


So who are these two baseball players?  The rookie for the Reds who had the five doubles and helped his team win the game is named Jim Greengrass.  Have you ever heard of Mr. Greengrass?  Chances are you probably have not.  He started off with a bang during his first two years but quickly faded away due to an illness of phlebitis.  The other ballplayer who showed such a disappointing opening day as a rookie player for the Milwaukee Braves went on to do amazing things, including one of the all-time homerun record holder’s.  Yes, you guessed it; his name is Henry, “Hank” Aaron. 


Now that you know the details from that early spring day in 1954, can you draw some inspiration from what happened during that ballgame?  What if Henry Aaron based his baseball career on that one dreadful day he had?  What if his coach had used that performance and told him he was not cut out to be a professional baseball player?  Had Henry Aaron judged his ability and career on that one performance, he may have never achieved the success he reached later in his life.


Judging yourself on one certain event or even a string of events is never good to do.  Just like that ballgame from April 13th 1954, it cannot or should not be a molding point for your future.  Learn from your mistakes, study and analyze what you should do next time to avoid such problems.  Always remind yourself to never quit, and to never base your future abilities on what has happened today.


The next time you have a bad day, tell yourself 0 for 5 is not that bad.  In the long haul, it might just be a record setting career for you!


I don’t want people to forget Babe Ruth.  I just want them to remember Henry Aaron.

    – Henry (Hank) Aaron

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Are You Holding on to Excess Luggage?


Have you ever taken a trip by airplane, only to arrive home and watch everyone pick up their luggage from the baggage claim area but you?  It’s kind of a sick feeling, especially if it’s late at night and you’re ready to head home from a long day of traveling.

Letting go of “stuff” can be a difficult and challenging obstacle for all of us.  After all, it’s our stuff, and when it’s gone or we believe something has happened to it, we begin to panic.  Some stuff folks carry around with them is more than just “material stuff.”  It’s mental garbage, and it can do enormous damage if you don’t let go of it.  In fact, I recently read a story about an elderly man who was arrested for carrying out a criminal act on someone else.  This man had been holding a grudge with him since high school according to the news article.

It just goes to show that some luggage might serve us good to get lost once in awhile, and permanently at that.  Some of us (me included) carry a lot of excess baggage with us that we need to dump!  Let’s face it, there are some things everyone must let go of.

So let me give you four ways to help you get rid of unnecessary luggage you might be carrying around.

  1. Evaluate the luggage that is pre-occupying your mind or thought process throughout the day.  What are you thinking about most of the time?  What consumes your thought process?  How do you see yourself when you meditate on where your life is going?  If it’s negative stuff, then it’s luggage you need to lose!  One way to help you get rid of those pre-occupying thoughts is to write out a positive affirmation on an index card.  Take the card with you and each time you begin to think about the negative luggage, read your positive affirmation.  Figure out ways to deflect the negative thinking that will sometimes overtake your thought process.
  2. Take time to be thankful for the positive or good things going on right now in your life.  Remember, things could always be worse.  My Mother was the Queen of this statement (and still is).  Anytime I thought the world was caving in, my Mother would always have this earth shattering example of how things could be worse.  Believe me, after hearing her story/example of what things might look like, I would always feel better.
  3. Be willing to let go.  It’s easy to want to hang on to old habits, thoughts or continue to host our own pitty party regularly, but the end result is excess luggage you have to take along each day.  Ask yourself, is this really the luggage I want to carry with me today?
  4. And finally, think about what life will be like when you let go and leave the luggage holding you back behind.  What would you rather be thinking about today, negative thoughts or positive outcomes?

I’ve carried my share of junk (luggage) for the past few years, and it’s no fun.  I also realize it’s easier said than done, but carrying around luggage that does not benefit you or help you move toward your goals will slow you down.  It’s best for all of us to learn ways we can get rid of mental luggage that we do not need.

So let me ask you.  What ways and ideas do you have for helping people get rid of their excess luggage that is mentally weighing them down?  I would love to hear you input.  – John Mayfield

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How to Upstage Your Competition On Your Next Listing Appointment

Would you like to know the question seminar participants ask me the most?  Okay, here it is: 

John, if there is one technology tool that helps you the most, what is it?”

And the answer?  It’s actually a combination of tools that help me with my business, especially when I go out to obtain a new listing against a competitor.  Technology can help you sell real estate (and other goods and services) but it can also help you get business that will eventually sell through another mechanism, i.e. in real estate, through our local Multiple Listing Service.  In other words, sometimes you have to sell yourself in order to get the customers business.

When you have the right tools, and can show the consumer various ways you can market their real estate, it separates you from the competition.

So here’s a new tech tool that I absolutely LOVE called “Flip 3D Wall Builder.”  I’ve included a video below on how this works.  Watch it, I think it’s very cool, and a good tool to help market real estate, but also to help you get that next big listing.  You can visit the Web Site Here.


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I Know Something Good is Going to Happen Out of This


SunRecently while visiting a friend in the hospital in St. Louis I overheard a woman in the hallway talking to her son about her health.  Although I was not listening intentionally, I just happen to be in the right place at the right time to hear her comments to her son,

“I just know something good is going to happen out of this!” 

Wow, although this may not have much of an impact to some folks, it caught me off guard and made me realize how fortunate I was to be in such good health.  If you can visualize with me a moment the condition and state of this fragile sixty (plus/minus) age woman.  Her frail and ill looking face, a crutch under one arm to stabilize her body as she walked down the hallway, and her son helping her along with a look of gloom and despair.  Even he had swollen eyes from his tears and a questioning face as to what the future may hold for his Mother whom he dearly loved.  You could tell from their appearance that they did not have a lot of money, and coupled with all of the other burdens and pressures they faced on a day to day basis, this was another tragic situation for their struggle to survive. 

As I passed by this mother and son in the hallway I had to stop and ponder to myself what a positive and encouraging outlook she had on life.  I couldn’t help but wonder how she could be so strong and supporting for her son (and herself) knowing she was facing one of life’s toughest difficulties.  Most of her hair gone and undoubtedly knowing that her life’s journey was in question due to her illness, yet, she still found a way to smile big and to encourage her son by saying “I just know something good is going to happen out of this!” How many times do I remind myself “something good is going to happen out of this?”  Instead, I often neglect to think positive and host a good ole’ fashion pity party for myself.  This woman taught me a valuable lesson that day that I hope I’ll never forget.


As you go throughout today’s work and you begin to think about some of the troubles and trials that are in your own life, remember the encouraging words I overheard in the hospital.  Remind yourself that life is short.  Always look at the positive side of troubles trials and tribulations.  Take time today to write a note and tell someone how proud you are to call them a friend or that you’re thinking of them.  Stop by and visit a loved one that you have not seen for a while.  Most of all, regardless of any difficulty in your life, tell yourself, “I know something good is going to happen out of all of this!” 

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Never ask, “What reason do I have to be happy?”  Instead ask, “To what purpose can I attach my happiness?”  ~Robert Brault

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All Sunshine Makes a Desert” – Pat Mayfield

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Want to Do 4 Times More Business Than Your Competition?

8-5-2012 10-54-26 AMI recently read an interesting article that says companies who blog at least 20 times a month will do four times more business than those organizations who do not blog.  Wow!  My problem is logging into the Web Site, using their editor, and then having to deal with uploading photos, etc.  It can be a real pain sometimes to get everything just right.  Plus, I have extra time offline to write, but my Microsoft Office Blog feature does not always work as I plan.  So I began looking for an interesting way to write my content offline, then upload it to my Web site, and I found it!  BlogJet.  I have installed this interesting application – BlogJet. It’s a cool Windows client for my blog tool (as well as for other tools). You can get a copy here:

I have some interesting new ideas and concepts coming to this Web Site soon, including a “name change,” topics, and more, so stay tuned….

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